“Maxie, I really wish I’d known who I really was before committing to know somebody else,” is what she cried out during our animated discussion amidst husbands and friends. Oh yes, onward forth we march on to chapter three: Marrieds to Singles; Singles to Marrieds – Know Thyself and Put Thyself First.
There is an explicit explanation for choosing #Livara’s website to terminate as .me instead of .com. Cosmetics is primarily about you as a person, the first person you look at in the mirror is always yourself. Duh! You see yourself in the mirror and then see others. When I go online to shop for beauty products, it is me I think about first. We are naturally selfish beings. It is no wonder that one of God’s two greatest laws specifies that you should “Love your neighbour as you love yourself.” If I ain’t got love for me, don’t be mistaken brother, I ain’t got love for you.
From the many stories told and written about the great men and women of the Bible and of life – as it is, the one point always inherently mentioned is that these great people of earth always knew and understood who they were. Heck, talk of Moses who led the Israelites out of slavery in Egypt. He knew himself so well that he had the audacity to complain to God about his character and God then built on what he was to help Him accomplish the many miracles that he did.
Why in the world would you want to subject another mere mortal to the task of discovering the mystery that you are yet you do not even know the mystery that is embodied in you?! Yes, marriage is a journey of self discovery and joining of mysteries and forces to create something divine and beautiful. But wouldn’t that be better when the both of you know the foundation and fundamentals of who you are as individuals?!
Anyway, one of my married friends – the one who cried out in earnest – assured me to never ever think of getting married before understanding me and my purpose on this earth lest I end up miserable with a feeling of being locked up as if in an abyss filled with marital hatred.
There is beauty, vitality, freedom, freshness and love in being single. To all my fellow single brothers and sisters, now is the time you get to fly and soar so high that the sky won’t have nothing on you. Discover who you are, realise your dreams, enjoy your freedom, feel the warmth of the sun on your skin and every drop of rain as it lands on your hair, on your face, on your clothes, on you. When you’re married, you won’t have the freedom to run around laughing in the rain like there’s no tomorrow, you shall instead be thinking about the burning matooke, posho and beans cooking or you’ll be thinking about your wife’s incessant calling from the kitchen.
Learning to live happily with and by yourself will pave the way for a bright future of living with somebody else – if that is the path you choose.
#Livara started with me, it went on to you and then went on to the rest of the world. It starts with you. It’s all about you. Know thyself and put thyself first, only then will you learn to put others before you.
Any one here in 2018 and still finds this as relevant as in 2016? Beautiful piece and beautifully put together. Thank you Maxima